有的没的

把人作以下几类：

1. 我喜欢人，人也对我好的：

既然都互相好了。就无需赘言了。

2. 我喜欢人，人对我没怎样：

还好。如果是自己欣赏的人，学习对方的优点。把握沟通机会。不能当朋友也致力与相处愉快。

3. 人对我不好。

分析对方强项，学习对方优点。制造双赢契机。What motivates that person? What kind of logic do they operate on? 要是是价值冲突，那么要怎样处理呢？其实我至今还是不会。短时间内避免冲突。尽量消除可能的沟通问题等等。要是对我恶性地不好（落井下石那种），找机会把它干掉。 避之。不得不相处的话，跟它笑笑算了然后找机会把它干掉。

4. 人对我好，可是我讨厌人/没怎样。

哎呀，你zomok这样。修养范围能及的尽量对人好，就算是表面也好。有时间的话，可以厘清讨厌人的原因。如果是价值冲突，haiz . . . 我不会处理这个。再讨厌，对自己好的人，一定要给予基本礼貌与尊重。这是名副其实的“尊敬别人就是尊敬自己。”

5. 人对我没怎样，我也对人没怎样。

很好。自由发挥。自己有没有对人“先入为主"? 我虽然内向，有没有可能主动和人“好”？

6. 人对我没怎样，我讨厌人。

看人不顺眼。做好自己本分先。力所能及再把它干掉。

7. 人讨厌我，我也讨厌人。

抱着一起干。

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一星期留一天任性放纵。总好讲说要工作到最后什么都没干成。

我要动心忍性。

To move one's heart and kill one's nature.

To animate one's spirit and suppress their instinct.

My father's hair

I recalled a time during Winter break - I forgot whether of 2012 or 2013 - when I was at home. Now that I am writing, I think it was probably happened in 2013. Father, mother and I were talking about my long hair, which I grew out in the summer of 2013.

My hair was coarse, the end visibly brown from bleaching. I said I got the traits from mother. Father's hair was thinner. I brushed my palm on his head.

My father's hair was soft. It felt soft and oily, but with the right amount of oil.

http://www.brainpickings.org/2015/03/05/franz-kafka-letter-father/